Cheat Sheet for a Stronger Marriage

Live Love Blend was birthed exactly one year ago.  I’ve been trying to determine the best birthday topic, but to be honest, my heart wasn’t in it this week.  I’ve been feeling a little lost lately, wondering why God has me in this place at this time.  For what purpose?

Ask and you shall receive, right?  Struggle is an excellent topic for the big birthday blog because yes, we all struggle at times.  This marriage-after-divorce stuff is hard work!  In fact, all marriages take work… but you and I both know that blending a family is MUCH harder than we ever imagined.

So rather than going with my instincts to run for the hills when times get tough, I turn to my cheat sheet for making better choices… PRAYER.


– I pray to be a better wife.

Let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.
Galatians 6:9

– I pray that we are following God’s plan rather than our own.
He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered.
Proverbs 28:26

– I pray that my husband’s love for me will grow ever stronger.
So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
Ephesians 5:28-29

– I pray that our blended family will grow together and see our home as a place of comfort and understanding.
Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 24:3,4

– I pray that our words and attitudes will reflect kindness and patience, rather than judgement or sarcasm.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4: 6-7

– I pray that we can forgive each other for being human; for mistakes made, and baggage that still needs to be unpacked.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4:32

The list can go on.  In fact, I’ll share a little secret weapon.  I keep a copy of Stormie Omartian’s The Power of a Praying Wife: Book of Prayers tucked in my purse.  It’s small & has short powerful prayers, plus room to jot down a quick note.  I write the dates and a few words on why I needed a particular prayer.  This helps so much as I see things we’ve overcome.  Cries of my heart that seemed like mountains at the time I wrote them down now look like tiny hills in my memory.  How encouraging!

What do you do when you need encouragement in your marriage?

(archived from Jan. 30, 2014)

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